Marshall Rosenberg

Marshall Bertram Rosenberg (October 6, 1934 – February 7, 2015) was an American psychologist, mediator, author and teacher.

The family moved to Detroit, Michigan, one week before the Detroit race riot of 1943 in which 34 people were killed and 433 wounded.

At an inner-city school, Rosenberg discovered anti-Semitism and internalized it.

After Rosenberg's father bought a house in a better neighborhood, Rosenberg attended Cooley High School and graduated in 1952 as valedictorian.

When considering medicine as a career, Rosenberg worked with an embalmer for a while to measure his interest in the human body.

Rosenberg's first college was Wayne State University.

He then entered the University of Michigan, and he worked as a waiter at a sorority and a cook's help at a fraternity.

Putting up with anti-Semitism, he graduated in three years.

The State of Wisconsin paid for Rosenberg's training as a psychologist.

Professor Michael Hakeem taught Rosenberg that psychology and psychiatry were dangerous, since scientific and value judgments were mixed in the fields.

Hakeem also had Rosenberg read about traditional moral therapy in which clients were seen as down on their luck rather than sick.

Starting in the early 1960s, he developed nonviolent communication, a process for supporting partnership and resolving conflict within people, relationships, and society.

Rosenberg married his first wife, Vivian, in 1961.

They had three children.

Rosenberg was influenced by the 1961 books The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz and Asylums by Erving Goffman.

He also remembered reading Albert Bandura on "Psychotherapy as a learning process".

Rosenberg's practicum placements were the Wisconsin Diagnostic Center, schools for delinquent girls and boys, and Mendota State Hospital.

There, psychiatrist Bernie Banham "would never have it where we would talk about a client in his absence".

In Mendota, Rosenberg began to practice family therapy with all parties present, including children.

After graduation, Rosenberg worked in Winnebago with Gordon Filmer-Bennett for a year to fulfill his obligation to the state for his graduate training.

In 1961, Rosenberg received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Wisconsin–Madison.

His dissertation, Situational Structure and Self-evaluation, prefigured certain key aspects of his later work with nonviolent communication by focusing on "the relationship between (the) structure of social situations and two dimensions of self evaluation; positive self evaluation and certainty of self evaluation".

In 1966 he was awarded Diplomate status in clinical psychology from the American Board of Examiners in Professional Psychology.

Rosenberg started out in clinical practice in Saint Louis, Missouri, forming Psychological Associates with partners.

In making an analysis of problems of children in school, he found learning disabilities.

He wrote his first book, Diagnostic Teaching, in 1968, reporting his findings.

In 1974, he married his second wife, Gloria, whom he divorced in 1999.

He worked worldwide as a peacemaker, and in 1984 founded the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international nonprofit organization for which he served as Director of Educational Services.

Rosenberg was born in Canton, Ohio, to Jewish parents.

His parents were Jean (Wiener) Rosenberg and Fred Donald Rosenberg.

Rosenberg's maternal grandmother, Anna Satovsky Wiener, had nine children.

His grandfather worked at Packard Motor Car Company and his grandmother taught workers' children to dance.

Wiener spent her final years living with ALS with the Rosenbergs, and Rosenberg credits his family's compassionate care for Wiener during the period his later work.

In Steubenville, Ohio, Rosenberg's father loaded trucks with wholesale grocery stock, and Rosenberg himself went to a three-room school.

Jean Rosenberg was a professional bowler with tournaments five nights per week.

She was also a gambler with high-stakes backers.

His parents divorced twice: once when Rosenberg was three and again when he left home.

He married his third wife, Valentina (a.k.a. Kidini) in 2005, with whom he remained until his death in 2015.

At age 13 Rosenberg began Hebrew school but got expelled.

Twice his father beat him, once so badly he missed school the next day.